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Are you a materialistic person? Do you use material and physical goods, such as money, luxury items, car, and property to feel happy? These physical goods can be anything, including what seems like daily necessities, such as your mobile phone, camera, mp3 player, and clothes.

A materialistic person is vested in owning material possessions and equates them to happiness. This is especially so if the ownership of possessions is motivated by emotional reasons (such as to look better, to feel better, to convey a status symbol) rather than functional reasons (to improve productivity, to communicate with others).

Materialism has become a trend in our society. Just look at the constant, growing fixation on earning more money and owning material goods. At the same time, we are now materially better off than we have been, looking at our all-time high consumption of mobile phones, computers, and cars.

Based on that, you would think everyone should be happier today than ever. But, are we?

Our Unhappy Affluent Society

Apparently, it’s not so. In The Affluent Society, author John Kenneth Galbraith claimed that despite society’s increasing wealth, people are not happier. In fact, they are now unhappier. He claimed that materialism has bred discontentment.

I first read about this during a marketing class in college, when I was 20. At that time, I thought the claim was ridiculous. I used to be quite materialistic then. By materialistic, I don’t mean hungering for branded goods like Gucci, Prada, etc. — I never cared for such stuff — but being focused on buying things, getting new clothes/shoes/etc., which is materialism in itself.

As a teen, I was frequently shopping with friends and checking out the latest fashion trends. Having grown up in Singapore, which became very materialistic over the years, I aspired to earn more money and get material goods such as a convertible and a large property. After all, I was taught by teachers, schools, media, etc. that they were the most important goals to work for, something that I shared in my purpose story. When you live in a city with extravagant shopping malls everywhere and billboards of fancy clothes, food, and things to buy, these become the things you aim for by diffusion.

This was the same for those around me. Everyone around me aspired to earn more money and own material possessions like new clothes, new makeup, a car, etc. as we believed they would improve our lives. This was further reinforced by my personal experience — as a teen, I would feel happy when I got a material item I had been yearning for, and this was so for my friends too. Having more money meant having the means to get the things that I wanted. Having more money meant being better off than if I had less money.

Intuitively, you would think that people with huge wealth and material possessions would be happy.

The Illusion of Material Possessions

After I started living more consciously in 2006, I began to question the role material goods play in our lives.

For example, I used to feel great gratification whenever I acquired a material possession I had been longing for. However, this gratification was usually fleeting. It was a matter of time before I would look at the same thing and not get that same reaction. This time would range from a day to a year, but usually shorter than longer. I never thought much about this and just continued acquiring more things to feel happy. I just thought it was normal — society is evolving, my needs are changing, I’m earning more money, and hence I have higher expectations to keep up with.

However, the act of acquiring more became a cycle, to the point where I couldn’t help but notice something was amiss. It felt strange. If these material possessions supposedly make me happy, why do I have to keep getting more to be happy?

After much reflection, I started to understand what Galbraith meant by “materialism breeds discontentment.” It turns out that Galbraith wasn’t crazy like I had thought — he was really smart to identify this problem way back in 1958. I imagine that materialism was a budding problem back then, but it has evolved into a full-scale phenomenon today. It is precisely the act of materialism that prevents people from becoming truly happy. In fact, materialism causes people to be unhappier in the long run. If you are hearing this for the first time, this concept may seem absurd. I will explain what I mean for the rest of the article.

Material Possessions: Artificial Symbols of Happiness

When you probe deep into our desire for material possessions, you will find many false beliefs. We look upon material possessions as a bridge to our ideal lives, to increase our happiness, to improve our life satisfaction, to boost our confidence, to feel more attractive, and so on. We see material goods to improve our quality of life. It seems our problems will disappear or be reduced with these material goods. Material possessions have turned into symbols of hope and joy. However, these symbols are no more than just artificial creations by people.

Advertising has a large role to play in that. As someone with a Marketing background, I’m in a good position to speak about this. Marketers invest billions a year in ads which create these linkages in our mind. Without them, we would not associate these material possessions with these positive emotions.

So how do marketers do it? First, they use market studies to identify your dissatisfactions which can be low self-esteem, loneliness, dissatisfaction with work, unhappiness in life, etc. They also create an image of your aspirations — love, happiness, acceptance, self-worth, and more. They design marketing strategies that link their products to this ideal image. Whether this is true or not is something to be challenged.

Let’s say X company has a skincare range. Their target audience is women from 25 to 35 years of age. They find out that in today’s world, women of this age group are fearful of not being good enough. They address this fear by having control: control in their career, romance, and life path.

X company then creates a marketing campaign about how their skincare range is for modern women who want control, because their products can help them control their skin’s aging process, which gives them control in their life.

This product-image linkage is conveyed in all aspects of marketing: from product design to packaging to advertising. In advertisements, the visual look, audio cues, and television commercial scripts are consciously crafted to convey this message.

All products have this product-image link created in advertisements, especially for brands driven by image (meaning luxury brands). Some examples are cars, fashion products, phones, cameras, perfumes, and even properties. It can also apply to household brands such as shampoo and toiletries. Every brand has its own personality.

Ask the average modern person what he/she thinks about Nike, and you will get adjectives like “just do it,” “freedom,” “liberty,” and “empowerment.” Or if you ask someone what he/she thinks about Apple, and we are likely to hear things like “being different,” “cool,” and “stylish.” Would people have this association if they were never exposed to these brands or their marketing? For example, ask someone from a tribe in Uganda, who has never seen modern advertisements — would they have such thoughts about these brands? Most definitely not.

Think about other brands you often see and examine the thoughts and feelings you get from them. Would you have these thoughts if you have never been in contact with their marketing?

As people get exposed to these marketing stimuli, the product begins to represent a certain image in their minds. People with aspirations similar to the product’s image desire to own it. These people work hard to acquire these possessions because owning them makes them feel like they are working on their problem. When they eventually acquire the possession, they feel happy, albeit briefly.

The Cycle of Materialism

However, when you probe deeply, materialism prevents people from being truly happy. It is a catch-22 where the very reason that created the situation prevents it from being solved.

When it’s time for a new product launch, like perfume variant #284 or lipstick color #583, marketers start to link people’s aspirations and the promise of happiness/confidence/love/etc. with these new products.

The end result? You become dissatisfied with your current possessions and seek to buy new things. You purchase these new items to be happy and discard your old products. This leads to the continuous cycle of purchase.

Materialism Breeds Discontentment

While all these are happening, your issues never get addressed. They remain there, untouched. While you strive to buy material possessions to be happy, it keeps you from working on your inner issues.

This is why materialism breeds discontentment. Materialism prevents you from addressing issues that will lead to real happiness. When you are materialistic, you base your satisfaction on material possessions. However, physical goods only act as a temporary placeholder to cover up your gaps. They are impermanent and external. They are not who you are.

While the physical goods will change and be discarded over time, you don’t. You are the constant that remains. The issues will be there until you address them. Instead of looking outward at material goods, you need to address these issues from within.

Breaking Out Of Materialism

By hinging on material possessions to be happy, you are stuck in the loop of materialism. It’s tricky because you get a false sense of joy when you get something new or get more wealth, especially if your reason for acquiring it is for emotional than functional reasons. This false sense of joy reinforces your desire to get more of it. It becomes a form of subconscious conditioning, where the positive reinforcement you get from the initial purchase triggers you to continue the behavior to get more of the “reward.” Material possessions become your go-to solution to solve dissatisfactions and life problems. It becomes sort of like an addiction.

The only way materialistic people can break the cycle is to step out of their belief system and examine the notion that material goods bring happiness. This can happen when someone keeps getting material possessions to be happy, only to notice that there’s no endpoint. Your moods become tied to your purchase of goods and wealth. Despite all the things you acquire, your feelings of dissatisfaction are always there, never going away. This dissatisfaction stays until you put a stop and decide that enough is enough.

Achieve Happiness Without Material Possessions

When I became conscious of the false connection between material possessions and happiness, I began to break out of it. Quitting my day job and not having an income in 2008 was an excellent chance to dig into the material side of me. Whenever I wanted to buy something, I would ask myself: “Why do I want this? What’s making me want to buy this? What is the gap I’m trying to fill with this purchase?”

Many times, my probing led me to uncover insecurities I was not aware of. When my purchase desire is triggered by an unhappiness, I would instead identify how I could address this unhappiness from within, rather than buying the material good. This was very helpful in my self-discovery.

During this time, I broke through the illusion that society and media keep enforcing — that material goods will bring us happiness. My emotional attachment toward money, clothes, accessories, and physical goods disappeared. What was left in their place was just the functional value of these objects. With the exception of what’s needed to get by in life, these material goods became nice-to-haves, where my happiness is not anchored on them.

For example, I’m no longer interested in shopping. Whenever I pass by shopping malls with friends, I don’t have an urge to buy stuff. On the rare occasion when I do buy something, my gratification is never the same as in the past. I buy things for the functional value, not for the emotional or self-imagined value. I buy a new piece of clothing because I really need it, not to add to a collection of barely worn clothes. Same for shoes, etc. I have given away most of the stuff I don’t wear (use) and I barely buy new stuff now.

Today, my relationship with material goods and money is totally different from in the past. This is liberating because I no longer base my happiness on my possessions. Whether my bank account has a lot or a little money, it doesn’t change the way I feel about myself. Whether I’m wearing fancy or simple clothes, it doesn’t change how I feel about myself. Regardless of what I wear or what I have, it doesn’t affect how I feel.

Probe into your materialistic tendencies

Ask yourself:

  1. Are there any material possessions you aspire to have to be happy?
  2. Why do you need them to be happy? What emotional benefits do you hope to get out of it? Each emotional benefit represents a certain gap in you. For example, if you want to buy something to be more confident, it means that deep down, you don’t feel as confident as you would without it. If you want to buy something to feel more attractive, it means you don’t feel as attractive without it.
  3. Instead of jumping to get that material possession, think about how to resolve this dissatisfaction from within. What can you do to resolve this dissatisfaction without material possessions? How can you attain happiness without material possessions?

Don’t look toward material possessions as your source of happiness, because you will hit a dead end with this path. Material possessions are just a temporary ornament in life. Instead, work on achieving happiness from within, independent of material goods and wealth. That’s where you will find an unwavering source of happiness and contentment. 🙂

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This is a chapter from the book The Teenager's Guide to the Real World by Marshall Brain, ISBN 1-9657430-3-9. For more information on the book please click here.

Chapter 41: Material Things Will Not Bring You Happiness

Material things do not necessarily bring you happiness. That is a fact of life. It is a hard fact to understand sometimes, especially in a society that tries very hard to teach you otherwise.

It is very common to get into a mode where you think, "If only I had object X, my life would be perfect and I would be happy." You REALLY want something: a new TV, a new car, a special pair of shoes, whatever. Then you buy it and you LOVE having it for a few days. But over time you get bored or it wears out. You can see this pattern repeated constantly in your own life. For example, your parents and grandparents likely spent thousands and thousands of dollars on toys for you as you were growing up: Dump trucks and Barbie dolls and video games and electric cars and on and on and on. All of those toys got boring or broken or outgrown eventually. They brought happiness for a moment or a week, but over time they became worthless and your desire turned to a new object.

This pattern begs the following question: "If material things bring just a temporary and short-term happiness, then what does that mean?" It might mean that you have to buy material objects at a rate of perhaps one per day to sustain the temporary and short-term high of getting something new. The problem is, that begins to sound a lot like a drug habit. This train of thinking can get you into some very deep areas. Things like:

  • What is happiness?
  • What does it mean to be happy?
  • What do I want to do in my life?
  • Does life have meaning?
  • And so on.
Very deep.

There is a difference between material happiness, which implies having all the basic (or extravagant) comforts necessary to live life, and spiritual happiness, which implies something else altogether. I had a friend whose philosophy was this:

This sort of philosophy implies that you can find something other than material happiness to give meaning to your life.

The thing about "wealth" is that there is more than one way to measure it. Traditionally it is measured in dollars, but there are many other scales. You can be "rich" in ways that have nothing to do with money. For example:

  • Rich in friends�A person who cultivates friendships and who is a joy to be around can have hundreds of good friends and can be rich beyond the wildest dreams of others.
  • Rich in health�A person who spends time eating right, exercising and relaxing from stress can be extremely healthy, and this health can be far more valuable than any amount of money.
  • Rich in strength�A person who works out with weights every day, runs, swims, etc. can be rich in strength and will have an attractive body.
  • Rich in family�A person who devotes time to his or her spouse and children will have a strong and happy family that is rewarding throughout life.
  • Rich in knowledge�A person who reads and studies will become rich in knowledge.
  • Rich in skill�A person who practices anything daily (a skill, a sport, prayer, whatever) will become excellent in that skill area. Excellence has its own rewards.
  • Rich in character� A person who works hard at being honest and truthful in all situations will become rich in character and will be trusted by everyone.
One funny thing about all of these different areas is that none of them are taxed. You are taxed on the money you earn, and that is it. There is no knowledge tax, for example. You can learn freely throughout life and acquire a huge "bank account" of knowledge. No one can steal it or diminish it in any way. Presumably, knowledge is the one thing you might be able to take with you to Heaven.

All of these alternative types of wealth are different from financial wealth, and yet all of them can be equally rewarding in their own ways. The point is that the act of buying things by itself, despite what television tells you, may not be what will bring you maximum happiness in life. Things like good friends, a loving spouse, well-raised children, a home built on love, a good relationship with God, a clear conscience, a worthy goal and a job you truly enjoy bring you contentment that lasts and has meaning. These things are often very hard for some teenagers to understand, but as you mature they become more important.

As you look at the world around you and come to understand what is important to you, keep these things in mind. Think about what it is that you enjoy and what makes you truly happy. See what you find. In thinking about it consciously, you might be surprised by what you discover. Money is incredibly important�you need it to survive. But it is not the only thing you need, and money itself will not bring lasting happiness to most people. Man does not live by bread alone.

As you ponder things like the importance of money and the role of happiness, you often end up at the question, "What is the meaning of life?" For most teenagers, this question is both important and confounding. Like its partner, "Who am I?" it is unique to you. Only you can provide the answer.

There are as many answers to the question, "What is the meaning of life?" as there are people. However, the answers often break into broad categories. By looking at some of the categories (as well as creating categories of your own) you can often come to understand how you want to answer the question. The following three sections look at three different ways that you can think about the question. This list is not exhaustive, and I am not advocating any of them. They simply offer you some examples.

What is the meaning of life for a rabbit? A rabbit is born. It eats and sleeps. It reaches sexual maturity and has children of its own. It is either eaten or dies of natural causes. When it dies there is no "heaven." It simply dies and that is the end of it. In such a scenario it is possible to conclude that life for a rabbit has no meaning. Rabbits exist to produce other rabbits and thus keep the species alive, but even that has little or no meaning in the grand scheme of things.

The "life has no meaning" school of thought applies that same line of reasoning to human beings. Humans, so the logic goes, have no soul and no afterlife, and therefore are no different from rabbits. When we die we die, and that is the end of it. This thought process can lead to one of several behavior patterns:

  • Because life has no meaning, there is no point to living. I should wallow in self-pity and a private misery for years at a time.
  • Because life has no meaning, I might as well be as obnoxious as possible�This is the "juvenile delinquent" and "career criminal" school of thought. Since life is meaningless, you might as well make as many people miserable as possible by killing people, robbing them, vandalizing things and so on. It is unclear how the connection from "my life has no meaning" to "therefore everyone else should be miserable" is made, but these people make it nonetheless.
  • Because life has no meaning, I might as well enjoy it while I am alive�A corollary is "I may die tomorrow, so I had better live it up today." Another somewhat more positive corollary is, "Life is a journey; enjoy the ride." In either case, life is seen as a terminating state of being, so the more you enjoy it now the better.
  • Life may have no meaning, but I choose to make other lives better during my time here�This is the opposite and positive side of the "juvenile delinquent" school of thought.
Assume that there is no God and no afterlife. Even so, it is possible for life to have meaning through the larger and ongoing society we live in. By looking at your life as a part of a whole rather than as an individual life, it can have meaning when you ask a question like, "Where is humanity, as a whole, headed?"

Think of it this way: Human beings have progressed from the point where we were strictly animals to the point where we are thinking, knowing beings who have just started to harness space travel, computers and communication. In just 100 years we have gone from an agricultural society to a technical society. This transformation has not occurred because of one person, but instead because of the contributions of billions of people. Each of us does one small thing that moves society forward. For example, many people worked to develop the telephone and build the switching infrastructure that makes up the telephone network. Many other people invented the Internet and built the systems on top of the phone system that make the Internet possible. Many more people worked to get a phone wire to your house. Still more people invented, refined and popularized computer hardware and software. Many more worked on modems and web sites. As a result of all of this effort you can now easily dial in to the Internet and retrieve billions of bytes of data from around the world using the World Wide Web.

Given our rate of technical progress, imagine what you will be able to do 100 years from now in terms of communication, calculations, travel, and so on. One day we will be able to colonize other planets. One day we will be able to travel to other solar systems and galaxies. One day we will be able to move huge amounts of matter to create new planets. One day we will, in theory, be able to design our own universes. When that happens, humanity will have become something else entirely. If we become immortal and can redesign or create universes, then we will be entirely unlike what we are today. Perhaps at that point we will find a completely different way to look at the universe and understand its significance.

In such a context, you are one part of the process that gets us there. Choose a worthwhile goal that moves humanity forward and work toward it.

Most religions contain a concept of Heaven or an afterlife. Christians, for example, believe in an eternal life through belief in Jesus Christ:

By believing in God, Heaven and an afterlife, life has meaning because it is not an end in itself. Instead, life is part of an ongoing and eternal process. The life we have on earth is just one small step.

If you believe in God and Heaven the questions then shift:

  • If there is a Heaven and Hell, how can I get into the former and avoid the latter?
  • What do I take with me to Heaven? What can I do to prepare?
Many teenagers rebel against the idea of God and Heaven in much the way that they rebel against Santa Claus as pre-teens. There is, after all, no direct proof that God exists. For example, He has never taken over all the TV stations and spoken to all of humanity to prove His existence.

And yet there is more subtle evidence. There is the universe itself, for example. Where did it come from? There are thousands of consistent and reputable stories about near-death experiences. There is growing scientific evidence of the power of prayer (see, for example, the April 1996 issue of McCall�s magazine, page 86 for an overview). These things combine together in such a way that you must wonder: Is there more to life than what we can see? And if so, how does it affect us when we die? These questions often lead adults to God. God gives their lives meaning because death is not the end�it is the beginning.

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This is a chapter from the book The Teenager's Guide to the Real World, ISBN 1-9657430-3-9, published by BYG Publishing, Inc. For more information on ordering a copy of the book, click here.

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